On The Other Side of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) are people in relationships with or in relationship to someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder. This blog and its information is aimed at Family Members, Loved Ones, Ex or Relationship Partners, Adult-Children and Parents of someone who has BPD. This blog features the writing of Ms. A.J. Mahari, a woman who recovered from BPD 15 years ago, and who also has extensive life-experience in the role of a family member, and who was once has a relationship with someone with BPD/NPD after her own recovery. A.J. is the adult-child of two borderline parents. She knows all-too-wel and first-hand the experience of loved ones of someone with BPD.
If you've found this blog and you have BPD you can find lots that I've written for you on my website at: borderlinepersonality.ca - loved ones will also benefit from checking out my website as well.
The Search For Understanding For Those On The Other Side of BPD
For those who find themselves on the
This search for understanding becomes a journey of identifying, coping with, and working your way through the various stages of that are required for the choices that lay ahead. Choices that will bring with them a myriad of maze-like emotions that can and often do trap those on the other side of BPD in a very painful "no-man's land" so to speak. This "no man's land" is the central affect of being on the other side of what is the "borderline" no-win situation. This situation leaves the nonbp in the "rock and a hard place" position. This web site will address this and the stages that most non borderlines go through when coming to grips with the reality of Borderline Personality Disorder in the life of a loved one and by the nature of the connection to that loved one, in their own lives as well.
A.J. Mahari Understands the Pain That BPD Causes On Both Sides From Her Own Personal Experience
I have had a lot of experience with BPD - both sides of it. I have felt the pain that you may well be feeling today. I had two parents with Borderline Personality Disorder, developed BPD in my teen years and subsequently recovered from BPD at the age of 38. Some years later I had a relationship with someone with BPD and found myself on the other side of BPD as a recovered borderline - now a non borderline. I know this formidable and serious mental illness - personality disorder -
I not only recovered from BPD, I have also recovered from having had two parents with BPD. I have also recovered from the relationship that I had with someone with BPD (and NPD). Yes, in case you haven't yet thought this way, loved ones of those with BPD - non borderlines - need their own recovery and healing too. In working in my capacity as a Life Coach, with those have a loved one with BPD, I help non borderlines to understand more about the relational dynamics that are inevitable with BPD and that in many people with BPD (unless and until they really get on that road to recovery) can be static and repetitive - re-wounding dynamics that mean that all the hope you have for things to get better and work out, often, at some point becomes more of a false hope that borders on the illusion of hope - a very painful experience. One that I help many clients find their way through and recover from.
I hope you will find information I post here, along with my ebooks, audio programs, BPD Inside Out Podcast and videos, helpful as you seek to understand mroe about Borderline Personality Disorder and how to cope with your own pain and all that you need to know about being in a relationship (or having been in one) with someone with BPD.
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